...Summer is almost three years older than Ryan. One Halloween she figured out that she could get to more houses and collect more candy than her younger slower brother. When we got home from trick or treating that night, Summer insisted on pouring hers and Ryan’s candy collections into separate bowls. This exercise revealed exactly how much more candy Summer had collected than Ryan. That’s when Susan and I realized that to a young child, there is only one thing that seems truly fair: More! Fair is having more than others. Equal is acceptable, but more is better...

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